Hard to do for someone who over-analyzes EVERYTHING! But its important to get this straight in your head. You can move past the surface and try to understand the deeper workings of someone elses actions when you take yourself out of the equation.
Your "poor me" attitude is quite annoying. For the record people can see through you and the ones that can't are just like you. Quit playing victim and get over yourself. GET OVER YOURSELF! how many times have I said that to him!