A successful woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at her.<<<< this makes me think of the lyrics to New Romantics by Taylor Swift, "cause baby i could build a castle out of all the bricks they threw at me"
No/low contact is the only way to go. Don't take their bait. Never argue with someone who believes their own lies. And remember: every abuser believes EVERYTHING that comes from their mouths is pure truth.