I think every woman needs to learn to not need anyone and to always always be able to hold herself up alone. Nothing wrong with love of being with a man, just learn to keep your independence! Needing and wanting a man in your life is different.
"Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny." Move past your hardships and prepare for the good things that come afterwards. Don't let your hardships jade you or blind you to the greatness that life is offering.