Be careful where you let your loyalties lie. Misplaced loyalties to an abuser makes you a slave to them. They don't deserve your loyalty. My husband needs to learn this, he is totally being taken advantage of!
You are always responsible for how you act. It is very true my friends, you and only you are responsible for you actions. A wise man once said - we cannot control what happens to us - but we can control what to do about it,.