As I have, so many times over...though women who think & live this way tend to get an unfair reputation for being 'one of those feminist who hate all men'...actually we don't, far from it. We support ourselves because we don't reply on a mans money, we are merely looking to love & be loved in return.
So your response to feminism is to demonstrate exactly why we need it. Because when women speak up for themselves, you THREATEN PHYSICAL VIOLENCE AND THINK IT MAKES YOU TOUGH AND STRONG AND BETTER AND RIGHT. This is the patriarchy. This is rape culture. This is domestic violence being excused. This is victim blaming. This is stupid.