It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves. I teach my kids to be very independent, some people think im too hard (sometimes I think Im too hard), but I know they will be so much better off in the long run!
Literally get this all the time from my dad and he just says "I'm trying to prepare you for the real world where people are going to piss you off" like??? Okay??? I'll learn then, stop making me slowly develop hatred towards you