Show respect even to people who dont deserve it, not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours -from Lifehacker, quoting Dave Willis. I really need to remember this because I think I show weakness when I do this, but I shouldn't.
The best love is the one that makes you a better person. Without changing you into someone other than yourself. Real love doesn't love someone else or who they think they can make you, they love you as you are and try and make you better!