In other words... Your choices are yours to make and if you are letting others do your choosing for you, well, that too is your choice! Take responsibility for your choices, good or bad, they are yours to make and if it turns out you made a bad choice do not blame it on others.
One who is injured ought not to return the injury, for on no account can it be right to do an injustice; and it is not right to return an injury, or to do evil to any man, however much we have suffered from him. -Socrates