I Peter 3:9 AMEN!!! This has changed my life! Sometimes it's still hard but for the most part I feel better! At least I know that when I see the Lord, I'll be able to tell Him that I did the better thing regardless of how they treated me! :)
...even when we're being bombarded by thoughts that we don't want to keep popping into our minds: we can offer up those thoughts to God in prayer and ask Him to help us identify what's really bothering us, and what we really desire, that we may be seeking in the wrong way.