Just remember that the vast majority of violence against women AND MEN is perpetuated by men, but abusing someone NO MATTER YOUR GENDER is not okay, and it's DEFINITELY not okay for WOMEN to abuse men either. It is abuse.
The idea that women cannot be abusive and controlling is again, part of patriarchy. Male victims should not be ignored. Feminists care about this. You use "men are abused and raped too" as an excuse BUT, OH, LOOK HOW YOU HANDLED THAT.