Work: I believe if you are getting paid to do something you should do it to the best of your ability. Hard work always beats talent. In the future I am going to continue to work hard at my job and show my boss I deserve a raise rather than ask.
One thing at a time. Know the problem. Learn to listen. Learn to ask. Distinguish sense from nonsense. Accept change as inevitable. Say it simple. How to work better, ten simple things that make a huge difference.