Sometimes those are not the things God has for us. But when we are stubborn and make it our way, he just turns his back and let's it be, you think your happy. But when you are back in that hole again and ask for his help he is still there. Amazing!
I think this is really smart for every woman. Know yourself. Know what works and what doesn't, first. You might think you know, but you will never know yourself until you spend a significant amount of time on your own. It's a great, big, fun, world out there!