No, people with the worst pasts do end up with creating the best futures! If we use our past as our strength, we can have a beautiful present and future life. It's all about mindset and using your past to create a better future!
You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage - pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically - to say 'no' to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger 'yes' inside Stephen Covey