So, this self-help book is about feelings. Surprising, right? But really, this book combines the mushy stuff with wit and humor. Author Lynn Grabhorn's theory is that to make true change in our lives (whether in the areas of career, love, money, or spirituality), we have to get in touch with — yes — our feelings. According to Grabhorn, only once we break below the surface of the coulds and shoulds can we figure out first what we don't want, and then what we do.