If it's not making you better, it isn't love. True love makes you more of who you are, not less. - Mandy Hale (If thats the case i think i must only be capable of 'loving' myself. I always lose who i am in the place of girlfriend or lover.
Quite possibly, this is the cruelest thing that you could do to someone. Particularly when you don't understand it or only know part of the truth (at best), anyway. Let people live; let people learn. (Those are not my words but well said.
No Relationship Is Perfect so Just (Live Life Happy)