"BUT, HE ONLY HITS ME WHEN HE'S DRUNK." DV counselor: "No, he doesn't only hit you when he's drunk. He gets drunk to get the courage to hit you." NARCISSIST: Person with excessive pride or obsession with own appearance, qualities, achievements; inordinate fascination with self, excessive self-love; feels entitled; vane. SOCIOPATH: No sense of moral conscience; disregard for effects of behavior on others; lies, steals, violates, betrays, or cons to achieve personal goals.