I know that can be an annoying thing to hear when you're at your wit's end and your life feels like it's falling apart, but you have to trust that everything will be okay. And no matter what happens, you will still be okay, life will continue on and things will fall into place exactly as they're supposed to.
You can have your pity party, but only for a day or two, and then you have to move on. If you spend too much time in that place of anger or pity or blame, you end up not being able to adapt to your change. It keeps you in a place of helplessness.