What I love about tantra is it has great tools to help men and women find a meeting point to slow down and match each other's arousal levels. At that point, they can begin to play with going faster and slower and becoming more sexually intuitive.
"Note to self: you gotta do this for you. This is for you. This isn't about anybody. Live for you. Honor you. Never lose sight of that." Some motivation for not just weight loss, but for any other goal you set for yourself in life.