Forgive. Unforgiving people allow other people to control them. Setting people who have hurt you free from an old debt is to stop wanting something from them; it sets you free as well. Drs Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries, p. 165 That is not to say you allow "new debts to occur. Become proactive (act rather than be acted upon) Drs Cloud and Townsend recommend: Become proactive. Instead of allowing someone else to be in control, figure out what you want to do, set your course, and stick
