Things we really would like to hear instead of *Stop crying* Crying is a healthy and necessary way (for kids) to express (their) feelings. By saying ‘stop crying’ we send the message that their feelings are not important, not valid, silly, or annoying.
Communication skills - Understanding why mental filters are important Using practice sessions to help kids ( and adults too) to develop stress endurance tolerance for coping with challenging emotional communications/conflicts.
Sometimes we display our anger to friends, family and others. Usually our anger is a surface emotion on top of something else. Original description: "The Gottman Institute the anger iceberg talking of anger as a secondary emotion"