Never be afraid to cry no matter what anyone says. Especially other men and boys. Any male who says you should not cry has deep problems and wishes he could cry. If a woman or girl tell you not to cry they are not feeling the spirit and you should not listen to them at all.
This is not true. God is not behind your pain. We are not puppets, God gave us free will. If you are in a painful situation just know that God did not put you there. But once this happens to us it will be thru His grace that we can use the experience to grow as people. It is His grace that will heal us.