Changed Attitudes do aid recovery. My attitude influences my recovery choices. Serenity is possible with changes in my attitude, expectations, and responses. As I grew in Al-anon, it became clear that my true responsibility was to care for myself. My caretaking and controlling actually hurt others, possibly cheating them out of an opportunity to learn and grow. Today I can detach with love, not only because it's a nice thing to do but because it really is the only way we can truly Let Go and...
Wise man, Carl Jung. Some people will always irritate us, and trying to change THAT is a fools errand. But if we can perceive WHAT it is about them that irritates us, and HOW they can push and even manipulate our buttons, we can approach them with sympathy, or at worse pity, but not frustration or anger.
Dont listen to writers when they paint their heartache in vivid colour: there is nothing glamorous about unrequited love. You may try to fight them and rip their grasp off of your skin; you can spit them out and fill your mouth with a new name but no amount of pretending avoiding or denying will make them love you right. If you dont even know what loving you feels like how could you possibly recognize it in another? Let me ask you: have you ever wonder why unrequited messy complicated love b...