I didn't recognise myself for a long time. I have no idea what he is doing this time round but I can't afford to enter into this trap again, I've too much going on right now and slowly picking my life up again. I can't allow him that power of fights, manipulation, threats, wondering what or who is going to contact me.
In fact, when you define narcissism, it is accepted that there is a sadistic element present. So, for many narcissists, being cruel and hurtful gives their ego a boost. To them it means they are in control of others, they are dominant and therefore superior. Dr. David Mc Dermott, What Is Narcissism? A practical guide to protecting yourself.
So true. When the narcissist makes a statement and you aren't allowed to counter or disagree, even in part, because they threaten to never talk to you again it is hard to get them to see the truth. You have to shut up to keep them in your life hoping and waiting for the day they come to their senses. Or, you have to just walk away until they realize what is reality for them isn't reality for anyone else..