Goodness, like kindness, is a positive quality that is expressed in actions that benefit others. It is marked by a spirit of generosity. (Acts 9:36, 39; 16:14, 15) But goodness involves something more. Goodness is moral excellence. It involves not just what we do but, more important, what we are. the goodness produced by holy spirit permeates a Christian’s entire way of life.—Eph. 5:8, 9
Manipulative people latch on to empathetic targets and exploit their innate qualities. They find people who are easy-going, gentle and kind - who avoid conflict and seek to make others happy. The Problem: They reciprocate none of these things. Instead, they feel entitled to your constant forgiveness and self-blame. If you set boundaries or say no, you will be punished for reacting to their abuse. Toxic people constantly look to blame the victim.