I didn't recognise myself for a long time. I have no idea what he is doing this time round but I can't afford to enter into this trap again, I've too much going on right now and slowly picking my life up again. I can't allow him that power of fights, manipulation, threats, wondering what or who is going to contact me.
So what does your N expect? Your N expects you to be perfect. By the way, expectations change by the minute. He expects you to give him endless attention. Then he expects you to leave him alone. He expects you to be a sexual object giving into his every kinky thought. Then he expects you to want zero sex. You must figure out which is which. He expects you to put up with every imaginable verbal insult, silent treatment, rage episode he can dish out. You must never be hurt by...
my stomach churns as i read this. my mother and ex friend did many of these things to me all the time. now i'm beginning to suspect that yet another one of my friends is a narc... what am i? a narc magnet? why can't i have people who will just accept me as i am and be a real friend to me?
Narcissists have an innate radar for the good empathetic people they target to exploit and ultimately destroy. Narcissists deeply envy all the good qualities you possess and also see you as a bit of a sucker for being so kind and loving. A narcissist feels entitled to exploit and destroy you. Like that's what you get for being such a good honorable person. This is how the sick mind of a narcissist works.
This is my last thought of what you did to me the last 20 years, I will not allow you to have any space in my head at all or waste anymore of my life, breath to speak of you or my time & Happiness. Narcissistic Abuse, you will get yours. I promise you this . V