Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go. - Jamie from http://allmylooseends.com/2014/03/lights-wink/
So many people say forgive and forget ...but the reality of it would be pyschologicaly unhealthy to forget... that would be allowing yourself to continue to be hurt in the same manner and it should NOT be acceptable....# cold truth..
You were unsure which pain is worse - the shock of what happened or the ache for what never will.