Candy Cigarette by Sally Mann (1989). Candy Cigarette, from her honest and controversial series Immediate Family, captures one of her three children, Jessie (now a model and artist), in a defiant and self-aware pose, staring down the lens at her mother, holding bubblegum cigarette.
But they don't take you seriously when you're young and they steam roll you. Think they know best and they made poor decisions. So I'm a hippy but an uptight well researched one. And they paint that sort of woman as unreasonable but I was very prepared and clear about what I wanted with Immy and you never know what may happen- and did happen- but it wasn't upsetting or disappointing it was a bit scary but I knew my wishes were being respected etc so an entirety different matter