This is so true! You get to say yes and no, you create your environment and your life! It isn't forced on you and I wish more people would really pay attention to what they are accepting and what they are forcing themselves to live.
you're so hard on yourself. take a moment. sit back. marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that wisened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. despite everything, you still grow. be proud of this.