Self love is so important. Because when you're all alone and it's 3 in the morning and you're lying on the floor crying and shaking and wishing it all would end, who's going to be there for you? You. You have to pick yourself up and find the strength to carry on. At the end of the day, you're all you've got.
I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore in order to win me over your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You're not competing with another person, you're competing with my comfort zones.
I get so many messages from women who are single that don't know how just embrace their singleness. The truth is, if you can't be happy alone you won't be happy when you're not single. One of the most empowering things I did, was go get coffee alone, shop alone, and go on trips alone. You grow from these experiences and you will truly understand who you are as an individual. You'll never have to struggle with getting lost in a relationship if you embrace your own company.