I'm so grateful! My friend asked about the guy I'd left cuz last we talked, we felt he needs more time. Yesterday, she saw a change in me. For the first time she said, "He's already lost u, hasn't he?" Yeah. I'm grateful that he showed me his patterns on avoidance, prolonging conflict, & not wanting a woman in his life regularly, cuz it helped me face our reality so i could finally let go & move on w/o subjecting myself to yet another repeat of his roller coaster rides.