Transitioning back to natural was at first based on my hair literally rejecting the relaxer. My hair told me, "Babe, you're hair deserves better", so I listened. Build a relationship with your hair. Fluffy (my afro) is cool af!
I wish I'd had these words for some conversations with some folks! I guess I was so taken aback that someone could think I'd give a damn what they thought about my hair that the words just didn't come to me!