Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.
Narcissists do not respect anyone's boundaries, especially their children's. Their belief is that the parent has the right and should control their child, even when they are adults. Children are expected to pay homage to them, and are forever indebted to them simply because they are the parent. Tina Fuller, author of It's My Turn, available in the bookstore.
my habit. this is my survival. this is how i became the best possible mother i could be to my own children. everything that i witnessed through out my entire life from my great grandmother, grandmother, and mother was twisted, evil, controlling, pure nastiness. each and every one of these women treated their own daughters with horrible hate. narcissistic mothers destroy their own families. i walked away. i am the black sheep. i am recovering. no contact. love those who love you.