More here: http://www.brainpickings.org/2015/04/29/david-whyte-consolations-words/
Don't pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.
Forgiveness simply means loving someone enough to pursue healing instead of punishment when they have wronged you.
I forgive you for all the pain and disappointments I experienced with you. ALSO I forgive myself for staying with you so and tolerating your toxic behavior.