Manipulative people latch on to empathetic targets and exploit their innate qualities. They find people who are easy-going, gentle and kind - who avoid conflict and seek to make others happy. The Problem: They reciprocate none of these things. Instead, they feel entitled to your constant forgiveness and self-blame. If you set boundaries or say no, you will be punished for reacting to their abuse. Toxic people constantly look to blame the victim.