If you've not read ay John Irving, you may well be aware of the movie "Life According to Garp" starring Robin Williams. John Irving is the author of that book and many other good novels, this one amoung them. A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving
John Irving: In One Person. "A compelling novel of desire, secrecy, and sexual identity. It is a story of unfulfilled love - tormented, funny, and affecting-and an impassioned embrace of our sexual differences.