They fall for an illusion Then as time goes on they realise they are dealing with an actual person with flaws and a mind of there own, not some perfect fantasy they have built up in their head. There are guys out there who have had numerous amazing women and can't make it work. They are shocked, almost insulted to realise that these women have flaws *gasp*. Get real, not many people put their worst attributes on display upfront. There is no perfect, but maturity realises this!