Put those broken pieces back together in your own time & in your own way! Use the pain caused by this relationship as a lesson on how to spot red flags! In the 9 years my monster has been gone, I've been on 1 bad date & many amazing ones!
When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits - anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving. Self love is the best love.