Narcs’ disregard for others goes far beyond simply not caring very much about them to purposely wanting to hurt, exploit, manipulate, and that makes them capable of the most serious kinds of relational abuse.
Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame you got "having feelings." Abusive people do this