Feeling rejected is not much different from actual pain. Studies of MRI scans have shown that the same areas of the brain that respond to physical pain also react to being hurt by rejection. As far as your brain is concerned, a broken heart is no different than a broken arm.
Emotional Abandonment: When Your Spouse Shuts You Out - Marriage Missions International
It’s a complaint we hear often from people looking for help for their marriages:“I feel distant from my spouse.” “I try to get my husband to open up, but instead he just shuts down.” “My wife just doesn’t seem interested in me anymore. I feel like we’re a million miles apart.” This is emotional abandonment. Instead of physically leaving the relationship, your spouse simply checks out emotionally. They stop investing in the marriage, leaving their spouse feeling detached and unwanted.
Myth: Individuals with BPD are manipulative Fact: Although people may feel as if they are being manipulated by an individual with BPD, their behavior is not intentionally manipulative. Their actions are often an attempt to avoid confrontation, abandonment, and/or to seek validation.