"Calm down" is a phrase that we all use, especially with kids when experiencing intense emotions. Here are some alternatives that might help resolve a situation quicker and more calmly. Gentle parenting.
How to raise happy children by being a happy parent -
"Thinking of your child as behaving badly disposes you to think of punishment. Thinking of your child as struggling to handle something difficult encourages you to help them through their distress." #parenting #discipline
When Good Parents Have Difficult Children: It’s Not Your Fault by Kim Abraham, LMSW and Marney Studaker-Cordner, LMSW " Parents – particularly of a child who may be making poor choices or behaving negatively – are often blamed for their child’s behavior. Many of us internalize that blame and feelings of shame and guilt take deep root...Separate feeling guilty from taking responsibility. When guilt does more harm than good, it’s time to let it go."
Learn to Love Your Difficult Child:The Difference between Love and Acceptance by Anna Stewart - "It’s not easy to love and accept a child who is different than you are or who doesn’t appear to fit in or who has behaviors that are hard to be around. We want our love to be enough, but the truth is, without acceptance, it usually isn’t enough for our children. They know the difference between love and acceptance."