Recently I was dealing with one, who was trying to lead a double life by lying to me and another girl residing on the other side of the ocean (so very convenient).These lies and abuse went on for over 6 months. In the end he was just looking for someone to marry for a visa, and after he understood I was not a "safe bet" and easy to manipulate, showed his true face. So my advice in such cases: run!
Narcissists are notorious for treating the general public much better than the people closest to them. Why is this? Narcissists are intensely concerned with the quality of their public image or "billboard".amen!
The Blissful World Where the Narcissist Is Never To Blame
Do you know how sometimes you have a bad day, and it may cause you to be a bit short with your kid or partner? And then, later, you go to them and say: I am sorry I was short with you, I was just worried/tired/busy/other, … We all do that, right? Well, not the toxic person. They live in a blissful world where nothing is ever their responsibility. When bad things happen, it is because the world is against them! When they are raging abuse at you, it is because YOU made them angry.