Do you know how sometimes you have a bad day, and it may cause you to be a bit short with your kid or partner? And then, later, you go to them and say: I am sorry I was short with you, I was just worried/tired/busy/other, … We all do that, right? Well, not the toxic person. They live in a blissful world where nothing is ever their responsibility. When bad things happen, it is because the world is against them! When they are raging abuse at you, it is because YOU made them angry.
I made the decision to take a year of my life to get to know myself better, to heal what I was ignoring and become stronger. There were times it was not pretty at all. I met parts of myself that I was utterly horrified with, sometimes I didn't recognise 'me'. This is called facing your shadow and if more people did it, the world would be a better place. There are some things we have to do alone and this is one.