You have a busy life, juggling work, home, friendships, relationships, kids, and you're so used to being all things to all people you've forgotten who you really are anymore. Learning about yourself - what you need, want and like, what really makes you tick is the first vital step to increased happiness, reduced stress, contentment and clarity. After all, if you don't know what your needs are, how can they possible be met?
If you want different results, then you must be willing to change. You can't continue doing the same thing, but expecting a miracle to happen. In order to grow and progress in life you have to change old habits.