An important part of sobriety is learning how to handle emotions that set us up for relapse. A trigger is an intense reaction that are rooted in our history. Learning what they are about will help you heal past hurts that are avoided while using.
codependency. People pleasing, poor boundaries, attracting problems and helping too much are common. Putting the focus back on you and letting go of what the alcoholic does is the start of 12 step recovery.