I tell this to My husband all the time. So proud of the man you are. Love you JWM! Remember how far you've come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.
Feelings are just visitors; let them come and go…and "let them come" means acknowledge them, lean in their direction, look into their eyes with kindness, be fully present with them…and then as they leave, smile to greet the next visitors.