Conscious Parenting

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If there's one thing I am obsessed with its questioning the norms of parenting. Here you'll find my ramblings and reflections centred around parenting with special emphasis on gentle & conscious parenting

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Saturday morning 6am (our time of day yay 😂💗✌) sliding doors wide open, sunshine, and Fin & I are cuddling on our new couch (which is really just a mattress on the floor with countless pillows .. extremely comfortable though)  and F says to me "you saved me" and i replied "I will always save you" 😂🤸‍♀️ was a bit of a cheesy movie romcom moment I tell ya. Oh sooo cute .....

who am I when I'm not a mom? I touched upon the question in my last post a bit already and it's something that is deeply preoccupying my mind at the moment. Since I turned 28 last month I feel so much changing inside of me. I'm figuring out who I am/want to be apart from being a mom. What I want to achieve. What experiences I want to have lived before I die. What I do when Fin is out the house. Who am I when I'm not his mom?!?  ...

And you know who im looking up to through all of this? Finley. Hes always so calm and centered through all the travels, all the flights, all the goodbyes and hellos. Im learning from him what it means to live in the moment. Hes happy wherever we are. He doesn't mind changes. He adjust quickly and finds the beauty of the moment. Yesterday we were in cold Germany, today we're in hot SA and F just takes his clothes off and continues playing, enjoying  ....

"Sorry I don't mean you that!" (Sorry I didn't mean to do that) or "Sorry I didn't mean you to hurt anyone"  Fin apologizes when he thinks he did something wrong. I think its great that he has no problem with apologising to me. In a society where we often find it difficult to apologize he does it freely and nonchalantly. It's not a big deal for him. He knows that people make mistakes, everybody makes them and that we learn from our mistakes and apologize to the people we hurt. ....

Fin : You are my favourite.  Me : Aww baby I love you.  Fin : I love you too mommy.  Me : Good night my babylove.  F : I love your hair.  Me : I love your skin!  F : I love your arms.  Me : I love your smell.  F : I love your beard.  Me : hahaha.  F : you razed it away! (Meaning : You shaved it off. I assure you I didn't do such a thing. I unfortunately don't grow a beard. Yet.) #latenightchats

On our way back from Afrikaburn Fin told us that his baby is crying. The baby's name is John. And John's dad is also called John as well as Baby John's grandfather. Fin himself said he is Johns mother. Since then he talks a lot about baby John. I wonder if he remembers this from a previous life. Maybe he was an Amish or came from a deeply religious British family. ■□■ ....

Lately I've been thinking a lot about boundaries. Setting boundaries is like the number one advice parents get. Apparently setting boundaries for your child is super important. So in order to be good parents we set plenty of them. Putting a boundary down means we're setting a limit somewhere. Somewhere we determined as 'this is enough'. We put our children into a state of artificial deprivation. Because it's really important .. right? But why? What is a boundary?

we raise Fin very respectfully. Meaning taking him, his needs, his wishes and his requests seriously. I let him make many decisions himself. Especially those based around his body. I vote his voice as strongly as my own when it comes to decisions that affect us as a family. We always try to find a solution or compromise that we are all happy with. Always ... but concerning TV time. ○ We don't own a TV but we own laptops and phones with Netflix.......