The narcissist doesn’t think of your feelings and how his behaviour, actions or lack thereof will affect you. Like, everrrr.
The narcissist feels very self-important. Gets a great deal of pleasure from seeing how many “likes” and “comments” he gets on his photos. He also can be “follower obsessed” on social media.
The narcissist is Empathetically Bankrupt. Completely void of empathy, but will all to easily go and volunteer, read to his Grandmother at the retirement home, rescue a puppy, run a marathon for a good cause… as long as he can Instagram it or let others know about the do-gooder / savior that he is.
The narcissist loves being associated with important, influential and powerful people and really likes to “make it known,” through social media and/or word of mouth that he’s banged, is friends with, is working with, is putting together a deal, etc., with high-powered, well-known people.
The narcissist is void of character (can’t match his words with his actions), but always stresses the importance of character and will even go as far as posting inspirational quotes on social media (barf), so that everyone can know that he sweats, pisses and sh*ts integrity.
Narcissists are unable to command your respect because they misrepresent themselves left and right.
Free yourself from the narcissist: Become indifferent by accepting that what you were looking for just wasn’t in their emotional range.
The one common denominator with narcissistic men, is – selfishness, emotional unavailability, and empathetic bankruptcy.
Once your relationship is over, narcissistic exes will also claim (on social media or however), to be/do/say everything that they withheld and told you they’d never do. They’ll claim to now be everything that they consistently weren’t – honest, connected, responsible, empathetic, and accountable. They will often display their “epiphany” in the most selfish and hurtful of ways.
Narcissistic exes are the hardest to get over. The highs are unlike anything you’ve ever experienced and the lows, although deal-breakingly awful, are more tolerable and dismissed.
Mourning the loss of ANYONE that doesn’t recognise your worth and that is incapable of connecting emotionally and treating you with honesty, love and respect, is like crying because you took a crap and now you have to say goodbye to it and flush it. That’s how ridiculous it is.
I would change this: I am not sorry for caring, for trying, or for any of it at all; although, now that I sit back and think about it, I am sorry it took all of this for me to learn such a large lesson.